AITA For Wanting To Leave My Husband Because He Wishes To Move In His Mother With Dementia?
This is not exactly an easy post to write.
I have been married for 8 years, and my husband and I are in our late 20s. His mother had him late in life she is currently 68 and has been showing signs of dementia for the last two years, and she was recently officially diagnosed. My MIL does not have much to her name, and both my husband and I do very well for ourselves, my husband wishes to have his mother move in with us, and I am against it. While harsh I did not sign up to share a home with either of our parents. I have no desire to become a caregiver, and I want to have children someday. Raising a child while living with someone with dementia sounds like he’ll.
My parents understandably thought I was being unreasonable, stating I made a vow to be with him. My friends understand, and my husband is simply devastated. Nothing is official I just brought the idea up. My husband was pleading with me telling me we would be different from others, but a part of me just did not see it. I do not want to put my life on hold. She is healthy outside of dementia she has no other health issues, which means she can easily live another 20 years.
My brother told me he was disappointed in me, and questioned if I would do the same with our parents. I think I would, you only get one life. My family and my husband’s feelings are making me question and second-guess what I want.
Lay it on heavy Reddit.